Trustability

How and why do I need to be trustable?

Some Back Story

This back story for this one is one for everyone and someone everyone has probably had in their past of some kind.

The idea of a trustability is something that shouldn’t be up as any kind of debate; however, there are people out there who are either in a service role, leadership role, or just people in your life who have spent their time doing things to have you not trust them.

How do these people make you feel? Do you feel secure when they have broken your trust?

WAY back in the day when I was but a young teenager I broke my parent's trust, probably on numerous occasions, not too say I was a bad kid or anything I was a teenager doing teenage things... secretively. You know what I mean.

As I grew older I realized being upfront and being trustworthy were ideal traits to have as a person. I strived to be a trustworthy as possible. Have I faulted on this... sadly yes. I do my best, and keep learning from mistakes in the endeavour to become better.

So How Do I Become Trustworthy?

So, what I would recommend, getting to a state of trustability is to first work on your likability. Wait... what? Likability? I asked about trustability!

Yes, I know you did, and the first step to getting to trustability is by first increasing your likability.

So what is likability?

Lik-a-ble

adjective

easy to like; agreeable

In other words, you have an agreeable personality and are easy to get along with. if you were to ask others would they say you are likable? Hopefully.

What does it take to be likable? I know we are working a little reverse here. You have to be someone who has a positive outlook on things and can see a solution within a problem. You don't want to be the person who complains and whines about everything as that doesn't make you very likable at all, and most people won't want to come around you or work with you.

Having a pleasant demeanour with a good vocal tone and cadence will help with your likability as well. Someone who speaks in a controlled slightly deeper toned voice exudes more confidence than someone with has a higher-pitched voice. Not to say they aren't trustworthy or likable it is something built within us for some reason to see this. Speaking someone talks at a regular pace that isn't too fast or slow also comes off as more in emotional control and intelligent. The faster you talk the more excitable you seem which leads to less trust as you can come off as having wild changes in your emotional state, and the slow speaking comes off as not too intelligent I'm afraid.

To add to this is body language. You want to have an engaged position that really shows you are actively listening and not waiting for your turn to talk. A nice smile, eye contact, and gestures can all show just how engaged and interested you are in the person who you are talking with.

So how do you get to the person to even come up to you so you can start on being likable and trustworthy? It starts with approachability.

Approachability? Yes, you need to be able to be easily approached before people will like you, and ultimately trust you. So what is approachability?

Ap-proach-a-bil-ity

noun

the attribute of being easy to meet or deal with.

So trustworthiness, and likability all start here with being approachable. If people don't want to come near you as they think you are come off as a miserable person and they have never ever interacted with you before, then you may want to check your "resting bitch face" at the door.

It's hard to do as when we relax or concentrate we have certain look on our faces and people can be put off or even scared off by it. It's not your fault your resting your face and conserving energy. Ask marathon runners, and cross country mountain bikers how they conserve energy. That's right they relax the muscles in their face to help conserve energy.

Now that we've established that you are conserving energy probably; this is a subconscious thing happening, and you have no clue. You are going to have to take a small mental check and note when you are resting and concentrating on whatever it is that has your attention. Once you realize you have a resting face happening you can put a couple of fingers up to your lips so people can see you are concentrating, or you can make a little smile to one corner of your mouth while widening your eyes just a little so people can see you are in a good mood just in the midst of something but you can be interrupted possibly.

So how do approachability and likability work into trustability? As you don't always have a lot of time our fast-paced world and faster faster-paced work worlds we have to get to trustable quickly, and the only way I know of this is b showing you can be easily approached and that you are a likable individual through active listening, and body language. First impressions happen with a matter of seconds and can be extremely difficult to overturn afterwards.

The final way of being trustworthy is, to tell the truth, and always do good even when it isn't the popular idea. Now when I am saying the tell the truth I don't mean to be rude I mean to be polite and respectful as you have to know your audience.

Integrity means that you are the same in public as you are in private.

- Joyce Meyer

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Ride Hard, and Live Long.

Sincerely,

Rob Hicks

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